ARE YOU A DIVA?????

 

 

I really don't think I've ever been a  diva...do you feel the same? Attention makes me

nervous and to be be honest I always felt like a little bit of a fake in front of the   

camera. Now writing....totally confident.  But a diva...not so much.

 

Divas are kind of like witches...they are good divas and bad divas. I suspect we've all

been exposed to both. The original divas are on the stage opera singers. You know

those larger than life ladies with the big hair and even  bigger bosoms. But at least you

know who they are and they are easy to identify. It doesn't work that way in real life.

I have always been a little shocked that some of the mousy looking gals are the

biggest divas ever.

 

A bad diva is the one who is needy, always has to be the center of attention and are

for the most part high maintenance, demanding and so self involved it makes your head spin.

A good diva may adore the limelight...but they are also willing to stand up for their

friends and ,well, lets face it  they bring a lot of dazzle to any event.

 

All divas have a sense of entitlement and they know when they demand a better table,

ask for a raise or tell their partner exactly what they want for their birthday ....they

deserve it. Their attitude comes from their knowledge that they're worth it. Which is not

a bad concept ladies.

 

A furniture designer band (who shall remain nameless) told me she only sold a few pieces

when she charged $300 for her work. But lo-and-behold when she jacked them up to

over a thousand...they sold like hotcakes. There's  truth to how we value ourselves.

 

So while I'm not advocating turning into a stark raging bitch....we might want to

think a little more of ourselves. After all we know what we're worth...and it doesn't hurt

to remind others just exactly what that means. 

 

 

Watch out for the "Heathers"!!!!

Do you remember the movie "Heathers" where a group of mean bitchy popular
girls created mayhem?. It was dark wicked entertainment. But I've notice that
the padded shouldered-big-haired Heather girls are now older and
incredibly disrespectful and yes, still bitchy.

In the tv business, thank God, I work mainly with men. The women in tv are for
the most part the kind of women who work with men and are pretty mellow. The
World of Men is pretty drama free. No one cries, has fits or is a tattle tale. No
one gossips about anyone else and if you're wrong , no one makes a big deal
about it. It is sheer heaven.

But those Heathers, unfortunately they still manage to creep into my life . The other day a
baseball hat , sweat pant wearing Heather that walks around my "hood" pointed
out to me that my rescue lab (who has disappearing issues) was sitting outside
my house and wouldn't come in. Duh, as if  I didn't know that. But she proceeded to tell
me that my lab scared people. I asked her if he had ever bothered her and she said no,
but she saw a child who was scared and she was going to tell the police. Really?
You know she was that girl no one liked that always had to tell the teacher.


Then in Vegas, for a friends birthday, we went to the spa. The Heather at the
desk told us we were late and we couldn't do this and we couldn't do that. Just to make
sure our fun outing was going to be ruined. My friend Terri bitched them out and told
them we were spending a lot of money and she didn't like her attitude. Seriously Heather,
we are so sorry you have a job you don't like, and I'm sure you're not making the hundred
thousand a year you think you deserve. But we were all waitresses and retail clerks in
college. Get over it.

My third Heather moment was a pr person at a local business that I contacted to do
a story for a syndication feed that goes out to stations all over the country and  is
viewed by millions of people. She wasn't really interested because they didn't have enough
stations in a certain area. "Oh yes," I said,"I can certainly understand why you
wouldn't want millions of people to view your experts." WTF....is she really that
stupid?

I don't want to say Heathers are just in their thirties. There are a lot of fantastic
women in that age group. And there are Heathers everywhere. But I do notice that  the
Heathers have some common characteristic....zero  ability to look outside the box...
the concept that the customer is always right, and mind-your-own-business.

I make tons of mistakes, we all do, but I  know the value of an apology and of being
grateful.  Do you have a Heather moment to share? Love to hear it.

30 HOT CELEBS OVER 50!!!!!!!

It's always important to check out what's out there. Let's face it, as girls we've been
checking out the competition since we were hanging upside down on the jungle gym.
The nice thing about getting older is that you can simply sit back and admire other
beautiful women . Reality has a good way of sorting out the green eyed monster and
keep you being grateful for the things you do have. SURE. You know we still look
and we still compare. But we also know at this point that beauty alone doesn't guarantee
us a happy life. Which is a big damn relief. Once you get that figured out accepting
yourself is way easier.

But let's hear it for the women over 50 that can still get a second look. We admire you,
we love the roles you play , and we love the example you set.

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